“We’re Sisters; We Fight”

Dear Reader,

Out of the mouths of babes. Two of our granddaughters were riding in the back seat. After a while, there was some squabbling. As the sound escalated, I turned around to see what was going on, perhaps to intervene. (I don’t like conflict.) The younger one looked me straight in the eye and simply said, “We’re sisters; we fight.” No big deal. We are sisters and we fight. They also play together, create worlds together, comfort one another.

Her words remind me of something I’m learning through the Center for Real Dialogue, founded and directed by Polly Young-Eisendrath. We’re humans; we have conflict. It’s natural for humans to have conflict. We have needs and wants, and very particular points of view. From early on, we develop ways of connecting with other humans, and ways of getting our needs and desires met, and sometimes that means conflict.

It’s part of being human. What I’m learning more and more clearly, is that we don’t have to dehumanize the other when we’re in conflict. We can disagree and work to understand what other humans are saying. We still don’t have to agree or convert the other to our “side of the story.” But we can come to more fully understand and respect their perspective and their very humanity.

Not respecting others as human beings with unique experiences, thoughts and ideas, leads to dehumanization, and the extreme version of that is killing.

At some level, we’re all brothers and sisters; we fight. Let’s not kill each other; let’s listen and speak responsibly; let’s remember to also play and create, to nurture and support.

Inadequate words about the flooding here in Texas. On the fourth of July, the Hill Country experienced sudden and devastating flooding. Many lives were lost, including children from a girls camp. Perhaps you’d like to take a moment to remember those who are suffering in the midst of this disaster. You might also consider making a donation of money or relief items.

Various organizations here in Texas are collecting things like personal hygiene products, cleaning supplies, gently used clothing and shoes, pet food.

Possibilities for monetary donations: Community Foundation of the Texas Hill Country; Red Cross (South and Central Texas); Salvation Army; Texas Search and Rescue; World Central Kitchen; Austin Pets Alive!

Life is precious, y’all. Lift your hearts, open to grace.